Although divorce mediation has been proven to be the most successful way to settle a divorce and is a great alternative to fighting in court, many people do not know a lot about mediation, or even know that it is an option. Divorce mediation is not all that the public seems to think it is. Divorce mediation is for reasonable people who cannot resolve their differences by themselves.
Divorce mediation is an out-of-court dispute-resolution tool that helps people settle their differences sensibly and with the legal system having only minimal involvement.
It provides a structured process that minimizes the defensiveness and friction that are normally present during spousal settlement conversations. It does this by creating a non-confrontational atmosphere that encourages the spouses to put their best foot forward when they are presenting their thoughts and concerns to one another.
Mediation employs the use of a neutral and impartial third party, a mediator, to help the disputants reach a peaceful compromise that they can both find acceptable. Mediators are not referees, judges, or arbitrators and they cannot make decisions regarding who is going to win or lose. Their only job is to guide the parties during their negotiations, just as air traffic controllers guide air traffic.
Lesa Koski is a qualified neutral, who has been mediating her entire life, despite her job title. She has found herself being a natural neutral party and that is why she has seeked the career to help separating couples during this difficult time. As many people believe that there situation is too difficult to resolve, Lesa has worked with couples from across the board and has been able to come to conclusions despite the challenges. Divorce mediation is not for every couple, and it is not for every situation. However, it has no down-side and can help most people save time, energy, and expense, not to mention wear and tear on the family unit.
Lesa’s goals for divorcing couples is to achieve peace, calmness, and a sense that they have some control over their lives. Mediation is a lot like a swan that glides on a pond. Located in Bayport, Lesa provides help during divorce from around the area. Having a peaceful conference room overlooking the St. Crow RIver, she helps people with their divorce issues in the east Twin Cities metro and western Wisconsin, St. Croix County and Washington County, as well as the specific cities of Afton, Hudson, Lake Elmo, Lakeland, Maplewood, North St. Paul, Oakdale, Stillwater, St. Croix Valley, St. Paul, and Woodbury.