When going through a divorce, it can seem like a daunting and never ending process process where no one wins. Although litigation usually results in both parties being unhappy, or one party detrimentally losing, mediation is another alternative to the divorce process, and statistics show that the majority of couples come out on the other end feeling satisfied with the results because the divorcing couple has time to make decisions that serves both parties.

What is a divorce mediator?

A divorce mediator is considered a neutral and doesn’t work for either party, but rather helps guides couples to make decisions and keep communication open. That means the mediator does not give advice to either party, but rather remain neutral. What the mediator does rather, is assist the divorcing couple in finding ideas that usually leads to agreements. That open communication of information frees both spouses to negotiate with each other in confidence.

Divorce mediation is about you and your soon to be ex-spouse deciding your own divorce and what is best for both of you and if applies, your children. In mediation you and your spouse meet with a neutral third party and with Lesa’s help work through the issues you need to resolve so the two of you can end your marriage as amicably and cost effective as possible. The most common issues that mediators help resolve is distribution of property, child custody, child support, retirement and taxes.

There are many benefits of a mediated divorce such as:

● Significantly Controls costs, both financially and emotionally
● Opportunity to be creative and address important non-legal issues
● Benefits children by reducing conflict
● Establishes a foundation for effective co-parenting
● Mediated agreements tend to be more satisfying than imposed court orders
● Confidentiality
● Focuses on the present and future, not the past

In all cases, the preservation and restoration of working family relationships is more likely through mediation than litigation. When children are involved with divorce and separation, the stakes are even higher. Mediation allows control to remain in the hands of the parents, not the Court.

The end result of a successful mediation is a written and signed agreement that outlines the agreed upon decisions made by the couples such as parenting, property settlements, child support, retirement, and family business agreements. Overall mediation is a far more positive way to settle agreement and with Lesa’s years of personal experience with divorce and certifications, Lesa is able to provide couples with all the necessary resources to help make the process smooth and more positive in the long-run.