As you think about untangling the life you have built with your current spouse, it may seem impossible, highly contentious and filled with emotion. You have had to make a large adjustment to the expectations of how your future would unfold and whether divorce as a next step is welcome or not. A path forward can seem daunting at best. Many divorcing couples are turning to divorce mediation to settle the complex issues surrounding a divorce including child custody (developing a parenting plan), child/spousal support payments and division of assets, property and debt. Lesa Koski is a trusted divorce mediator in the Stillwater, MN area who has more than 10 years of experience helping couples move forward with their lives in a healthy way.
Benefits of Divorce Mediation
The court system is by definition adversarial and is likely to increase the amount of conflict between you and your divorcing spouse, while divorce mediation is designed to empower both you and your divorcing spouse to find common ground and develop solutions for moving forward that will work for you. There are many additional benefits in deciding to pursue mediation as a tool for settling your divorce.
● Less expensive: Divorce mediation typically costs 40-60% less than a court battle.
● Takes less time: To settle a divorce, you should be prepared to participate in 3-4 two hour mediation sessions over the course of 1-2 months. A court battle can take months or even a year.
● Allows for flexibility and creative solutions: Because you and your divorcing spouse are generating the discussion, you can find solutions that are ideally suited for your unique needs and situation, rather than relying on the court to determine the settlement.
● Models cooperative problem solving skills for your children: Mediation emphasizes cooperative discussion that models positive behavior for your children.
● Lays strong foundation for future co-parenting: Mediation is as effective after a divorce as during the settlement process so you can come back to your mediator for questions about how to manage changes in schedule, lifestyle, etc.
● Highly confidential: Mediation allows you to solve your issues in a private way, without airing your dirty laundry in front of a judge and the staff in a courtroom.
● Couple controls the discussion and the outcome: You are empowered to set the tone for the discussions, and cover what is pertinent to your situation. Your mediator is not a “decider” but a facilitator for a positive and productive discussion.
Experienced Divorce Mediator MN
If you think that mediation might be an avenue you want to pursue for your divorce settlement, call Lesa Koski at 651-214-5057 to learn more or to schedule a free consultation.